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March 18, 2014

Some Truths About Cats & Dogs

I've mentioned before (I think) that I was not much of an animal lover before I met my wife.  But she came with a dog and two cats so something had to change, right?  Over the years we dated across state lines I became more of a critter person, but there's only so much you can learn about living with animals on the weekends.  Now after several months of sharing a house with all the critters (both cats still and now two dogs), certain things have become apparent.

For a reminder, the two cats are Kali:



and McNally:



They live in our sun room, which - to head off any angry letters - has heat and air conditioning, so they're not being left in the elements.  More critically for my observations is that, somehow, I have inherited the job of catering to their whims, i.e. feeding, watering, and litter box patrol.  Maybe this was somewhere in the vows when K and I got married, but if it was I don't remember it.

What I've learned performing that duty is that, in spite of having constant access to food and water, the cats, McNally in particular, are only comfortable eating in my presence.  In fact, McNally will sit at the kitchen door and meow like crazy for someone, for the love of gods, to please come see him, only to turn and make a beeline for the food bowl the moment you open the door.  Kali is more subtle about it, but tends to follow his lead.  Or maybe she puts him up to it?

If they can't eat without me, they can certainly, um, deposit while I'm absent.  Most of my litter box experience prior to last year came from attending to one of my in-law cats, Torrie, when her people went on vacation.  Torrie has the personality of a grumpy Vorlon bureaucrat on a bad day, but, to her credit, she has dainty litter box habits.  Our cats, not so much.  For one thing, they fling the litter all over the place, even though they have a very stylish Buckminster Fuller style domed litter contraption (so it's not a box, technically).  For another, there is no way two normal cats can produce as much stuff as I scoop out of said contraption every night.  My working theory is that they kill drifters (small ones), cut up their bodies, and bury the parts in the litter.  I only pray that my food, water, and scooping services will keep me on their good side.

Whatever the cats are up to, Maia definitely has figured out one of the oldest organized crime schemes, the protection racket.  You remember Maia:



When we first got Maia we rewarded her with a treat for going outside and doing her stuff.  Positive reinforcement and all that.  Good plan, except we never stopped the rewards once the behavior was established.  This was a bad idea, as Maia has now caught on to our scheme and has figured out how she might have many treats through the course of a day.

While we're at work, gone for hours, she's able to manage not to do anything inside (most days), but if one of is home or, heaven forbid, we both are home on the weekend?  She needs to pee every hour.  She does with this look on her face that's like, "nice wood floor you got here in the family room.  Shame if something happened to it."  In my head, it sounds almost exactly like this.  Maia has become a Mafia dog!

As for her sister, well, when we first got Uzume she had two fully functioning eyes.  Now, thanks to an infection she lost one altogether and the one she's got left just doesn't work anymore:



In spite of that, she knows when her picture is being taken, somehow.

When she went blind, we read about how animals who lose their sight will adapt to their surroundings, making a mental map of their little world to get around in.  Based on Uzu's experience, I'll quoth Opus and proclaim "that's a bunch of crapola."  At the very least, Uzu's cartographical skills aren't very good, as she continues to ram head first into walls, furniture, and whatever else might get in her way.

Or, maybe, she's just playing it smart.  After all, with our concerns about her concussing herself into oblivion, it means that Uzu pretty much gets picked up and carted anywhere she needs to go in our arms, as her privileged status demands.

Wait a second, I sense a trend here.  Have I been outsmarted by my critters?  Dammit!

May 13, 2013

Bloggus Interuptus: Matrimonial Edition

Friends, you may remember that last year the lovely lady K agreed to marry me. The time for us to make good on that promise is upon us! And we just bought a house! So, I’ll be stepping away from FtS for the rest of the month.

See y’all in June!

July 29, 2012

Sorry Ladies . .

. . . I'm taken:


The wonderful and lovely K has agreed to spend the rest of her life with me. I am, understandably, a happy man.


July 3, 2012

Phun, Phun, Phun

A couple of weeks back, K (the girlfriend) and I headed off to Philadelphia for a few days (sans critters this time). The motivation for Philly was Marillion returning to the United States on tour for the first time since 2004. It was the third time I’ve seen them, each time a little further from home. At this rate, I’ll wind up in Bangor, Maine, just to go to a concert.

I should mention that K is not a particular fan of prog in general or Marillion specifically. But she is a very patient, loving girlfriend and didn’t blink at the thought of going to the concert with me. The long weekend and short vacation didn’t hurt, of course. She also took a lot of the pictures.* Thanks, honey!

As is typical when we breeze into town for a few days, we stayed downtown (for the most part), on Penn Square.


The night view right outside the hotel, looking up at the Ben Franklin statute on top of city hall, was really cool, but I couldn’t get a good picture.

First day we spent on foot, basically wandering around the neighborhood. The Reading Terminal Market, a huge collection of ethnic food places, was just down the block. It took more than an hour just to work through it, much less decide where to have lunch. We settled on a Cajun place serving gator sausage gumbo. Good stuff!

We also wandered through Chinatown, in which K bought strange, odd, spiky fruit. Yes, we are that kind of tourist.


That night, we dined high style at Morimoto, restaurant of perennial Iron Chef champ Masaharu.


It lives up to the hype. I had the world’s best ramen soup and a kobe beef rice bowl, while K worked through an 8-course tasting menu. Aside from one of the “pallet cleanser” courses (some kind of strawberry and vinegar soda), it was all excellent. So I was told. The restaurant itself has a cool vibe, with subdued neon lights of shifting colors underneath every table. Very conducive to conversation.

We went to Philly a few years ago and managed to avoid one of its more famous attractions – the Philadelphia Museum of Art. It’s a fabulous old building with lots of neat stuff, most of which is arranged in period appropriate rooms. In fact, some of the Asian artifacts are housed in rooms transported from Japan and China. And, of course, that’s where Rocky is.


I wanted to try and check out the relocated Barnes Foundation collection, but it apparently takes an act of Congress to get in. It was outside of the Museum of Art, waiting on a cab, that I spied this abomination.


I hope all the money they’ve made on SUV’s keep Porsche warm at night, since they sold their soul to get there.

That night, it was concert time! The venue, the Theater of the Living Arts, is on South Street, just down the street from Jim’s, one of Philly’s premier cheesesteak venues. So we planned to hit Jims for a bite, then head to the show.


When we arrived, the line at Jim’s was out the door and around the corner. And so we stood. This would be a recurring theme for the evening. To be fair, Jim’s has a system and it works pretty quickly, all things considered. As for the sandwich? To be honest, I wasn’t overly impressed. It was good, don’t get me wrong, but not the revelation I expected.

The TLA is on the next block down from Jim’s, but there wasn’t anybody hanging around outside before the doors opened. Seemed odd, but then we found out why – they line formed down the block and around the corner (in front of another cheese steak place – they’re everywhere!). And so, with an hour before the doors opened, we were faced with this:


K was not particularly enthused about doing more line standing.


Neither was I, to be honest. The venue itself was mostly standing room only (the few seats in the balcony were reserved for VIPs), which meant we were going to spend the rest of the night on our feet. After about an hour, we were let out of the alley and into the venue. We quickly staked our ground at a post near the back of the main room, next to the sound guy’s station.


The TLA is an old movie theater, so the floor slopes down toward the stage, providing some vantage point from the back of the room. It was a good view, for me at least. K did her best to snap a few pictures (sans flash, due to TLA policy), though the conditions made it difficult. Some ended up interestingly abstract, tho'.


This one came out a bit better, H with his MIDI cricket bat. What? It's a cricket bat with MIDI technology for triggering samples and such. Doesn't everybody have one?


Technical problems were the theme of the night. One of H’s mics stopped working, Mark’s keyboards dropped out at the end of one track, and the aforementioned MIDI bat tanked. So no sax samples for “This Strange Engine.” But those roadblocks were easily overcome. The crowd was into it, the band was excellent, and the vibe was just what I’ve come to expect from a Marillion concert – the closest I ever get to a religious experience. I guess I’ll be due for another one in a decade or so.

There’s another Philly tourist attraction in the neighborhood up near the Museum of Art that K and I managed to miss last time we were there. This time, since we were uprooting from downtown a day early and had a car, I was compelled to check it out.

When most folks think of prisons today, the word “penitentiary” is synonymous. It was not always the case. The idea that a prison could be more than just a temporary warehouse for serious criminals (who were most likely to be executed, exiled, or heavily fined) started circulating in the late 18th-century. The first place it was tried was in Philly, at the Eastern State Penitentiary, opened in 1829. It is, truly, what one thinks of when “prison” pops into your head.


It was called a penitentiary because the core of its approach was to force prisoners to be penitent, or humble and regretful, about their sins . . . er, crimes, rather. To accomplish that task, prisoners were kept in isolation from one another at were required to remain silent at all times.


In the ceiling of each cell was a skylight. It was more than a simple way to get light into the cell. It was supposed to be a reminder of the omnipresent eye of God looking down upon them.


The system employed at Eastern State didn’t catch on in the United States very much (a similar system that emphasized work over penitence won out in Gilded Age America), but it was popular overseas. That being said, the general look and vibe of the place is similar to a lot of American prisons built not too long after, including the old West Virginia Penitentiary at Moundsville.

Eastern State was really a marvel of its age, architecturally speaking. It had a system of steam heat and running water (sort of – guards flushed the toilets twice a week, IIRC) long before most of the young United States did. The design itself, with its central control hub and cellblocks spiraling out from there. It allowed for maximum visibility with the fewest number of watchers. Thus, you get views like this.


At the time, it was a noble experiment. Looking back with hindsight and an increasing understanding of how solitary confinement turns people bugfuck crazy, to call it cruel would be an understatement. Thankfully, or maybe not, politics overwhelmed the experiment, as more and more people were sent to Eastern State (the cell block above is an example of one of the later two-tiered ones, built to house more people). It was closed in 1971.

After its closure, Eastern State sat a good long while as folks tried to figure out what do with it. Various plans came and went (including one for redevelopment as high-end condos, built behind the massive outer walls), but nothing materialized. As a result, by the time it became the tourist attraction it is today in 1994, a good bit of it had fallen into ruin. Most of it is maintained that way, and thus you have things like this:


That’s a tree growing down into one of the cells. As a result of the ruin, the place is plenty creepy. No surprise, then, that it’s often used as a set for films (including Terry Gilliam’s 12 Monkeys), TV, and photo shoots.

As I said, we hit Eastern State on our way out of downtown Philly. We relocated because, in a completely happy coincidence, not only was there a Philadelphia Union game the night after the concert, but it was against DC United. I may never turn K into a prog fan, but she’s become quite a fan of the beautiful game.

My prior soccer experiences have all been at DC’s home stadium, RFK, which was built for the Redskins and (olde school) Nationals decades ago. To say it has “charm” is to oversell it a bit. It’s way too big for the average MLS game, but it does lend something to the atmosphere when Barra Brava and the Screaming Eagles can make the stands shake with their drumming.

By contrast, the Union play in a fairly new soccer specific stadium in the Philly burb of Chester, right near New Jersey and Delaware (our hotel was actually in Delaware that night), PPL Park. It sits right on the river, next to a big ass bridge that (thanks to Mapquest) would have spirited us away into Jersey. It’s a much smaller, more comfortable, and enjoyable place to experience a game than RFK.


It also made for some interesting moments during the match. I decided not to buy tickets in the designated “away supporters section,” because I rightly thought it would be full with drum pounding, chanting DC fans and figured we wouldn’t want to spend another night on our feet. As a result, we were in the middle of a section full of Philly fans, many flying the Union colors (I strategically wore my US national team jersey, not a DC one). We blended pretty well, except the grin on my face as the Union impotently tried to score again and again played out over 90 minutes.


As it happened, DC snatched a late goal to win the match. I celebrated quietly to myself.

With that, our jaunt to Philly was over. We ate well, heard some great music, and watch DC United snatch victory from the jaws of defeat. Can’t ask much more than that.

* For more pix and bigger versions, see here.

August 15, 2011

Second City Visions

Last week, K and I spend a few days in Chicago in honor of her birthday.  Birthday trips have become a sort of tradition for us.  We'll load up the car, head for a not-too-far-away metropolis, plop down in the middle of it, and enjoy ourselves.  We chose Chicago because K had never been there and I really enjoyed the couple of days I spent there while I was in law school.

Here are some pics to give you an idea of where we went and why.  Unless otherwise noted, they were all taken by K, the official photographer of Feeding the Silence.

Of course, we were not alone in our travels.  Maia, the One-Eyed Wonder Pup, and Uzume the Perpetual Motion Pup came along, too.  This was Uzume's first big city trip.  She adjusted pretty well.


She even found time for one of her favorite pastimes - sitting and growling at her food for no apparent reason.


We stayed just north of the river, near Trump Tower, and so had to navigate down to The Loop on foot.  Here's a shot down river from the North Street bridge.  We had dinner that night at the restaurant on the right.


We only had two real targets for this trip, one of which was The Art Institute of Chicago, famous home of Seurat's Sunday Afternoon . . ., Hopper's Nighthawks, and, as of 1999 when I was last there, a bizarre installation called "Clown Torture."  Sadly, that last one appears to have gone away.  Regardless, the building is still guarded by a a pair of sturdy lions.


K took several pictures of interesting paintings and others things you can see in the set on my Flickr feed.  Here are a couple of the more gargantuan pieces.

I have no idea who sculpted this guy, or who he is supposed to be.  He's just plopped in the lobby of the Institutes's modern wing.  It called out for photography.


This stairwell (which has several different bits, as you can see), contained an installation called Public Notice 3, by Jitish Kallat, which takes the words of a speech given at the 1893 First World Parliament of Religions urging the end of fanaticism and emphasizing tolerance of all beliefs and lays them out under the steps.  K posed for this one, so I must have taken it.


As I said, we dined that night in a restaurant right on the river beside the North Street bridge.  Here's a picture I took from our table up North Street.


Our other "must do" was a concert on Wednesday night at Ravinia Festival, Chicago's big outdoor concert venue in the northern suburb of Highland Park.  We decided to take the scenic route up there and catch a couple of interesting sights along the way.

The Bahá'í Faith emerged from 19th-century Persia and teaches a  message of the unity of mankind and its religions.  If you've never heard of them, don't feel bad - they claim only 155,000 adherents in the United States (we marginalized atheists, by contrast, can at least muster a few million).  Regardless, their house of worship in Wilmette (one of only seven in the world and the only one in the United States) is a breathtaking building.


As you can see, the architecture carries on the unity theme, incorporating several religious symbols.


Photography of the dome inside isn't allowed, but apparently that doesn't stop everybody.

Photo by ctot_not_def, taken from Wikimedia Commons

The Arabic script at the top translates to "O thou glory of glories."  Here's an arty shot of the sun peaking out over the dome.


From the Bahá'í house of worship, we proceeded to the Chicago Botanic Garden.  Unlike the Phipps Conservatory in Pittsburgh, the Chicago Botanic Garden is mostly outside and covers a lot of ground.  They've got water lilies.


And a waterfall.


And some lovely sculptured islands for the Japanese portion of the gardens.


A portion of the Japanese section include some willow trees that hung out over the surrounding water.  K took this really neat picture under one of them.  Check out the full sized version in the Flickr feed.


No pictures of the concert, featuring Los Lonely  Boys and Los Lobos.  It was excellent, with the end of each set evolving into a jam session featuring both bands.  Good times.

The next day, we took a tour on the river given by the Chicago Architecture Foundation.  It's a great way to get a feel for the city's history and see some pretty neat buildings.  Like the Tribune Building, built for the newspaper, which tops a high rise with a Gothic temple type device.


Or this building (it lacks a cool name, just has an address) of with curved green glass that matches the bend in the river.  It also reflects the buildings across the river.


This is part of the Boeing headquarters, which has both a tall tower and this shorter annex.  The superstructure at the top there isn't ornamental - it's actually the support from which the rest of the building hangs.  Traditional underground supports wouldn't work because the train runs underneath.


And then we came home.  It was a wonderful little trip with lots of cool things to see.  But with all the pictures, this one is my favorite.


April 6, 2011

I'm Otherwise Occupied

My free time this week has evaporated in the face of musical pursuits, hence the lack of blogging.  To tide you over until I get through (or get frustrated) in the studio, here's some cute critter pix!

Uzume sometimes perches on the back of my couch, apparently thinking she's a pirate's parrot.  Either that or she's trying to read National Geographic over K's shoulder stealthily:


Maia stopped keeping the red man down just long enough to bask in the sun and stare at me adoringly.  So I had to take a picture:

And, bonus footage - a circle o' kitteh:


That's all I got.  Really.

January 2, 2011

Dramatis Personae

To the extent any of this stuff matters, I wanted to put all of my basic information in one place. The short version is that I'm a professional lawyer, a hope-to-be professional writer, an amateur auto racer, and a very amateur musician.

And I look like this:


As you can see, I'm a bit of a soccer fan. More of that later.

My bio: I was born and raised in and around Charleston, West Virginia. I spend seven years in Morgantown, getting an undergrad degree in history (with philosophy and poli-sci minors) and my law degree. I became a member of the WV Bar in 1999. Out of law school I spent a year in the Beckley area working for what was then Appalachian Legal Services (now, after a series of mergers, WV Legal Aid), doing domestic law. It was not my thing.

After about a year of that I got a chance to jump from civil to criminal work and moved to the Kanawha County public defender office. It was there I started to do appellate work, although state appellate practice is a bit weird in WV, what without a mid-level appeals court and all. In 2002, I shifted from state work to the federal side, joining the Federal Public Defender office in Charleston as the Legal Research and Writing Specialist. My business cards say "Appellate Counsel," which is a pretty accurate description. They haven't kicked me out, yet.

I say all that not to tout my qualifications to do or say anything in particular, but so folks have some idea of where I'm coming from. As if I know myself.


I mostly write about myself (it is my blog, after all), but I'll occasionally mention some other folks.  Most important of those is The Wife The Girlfriend, aka "K", who is kind enough to put up with my nonsense.  This is she:


Before I met K, about five years ago, I was not much of an animal person. I've come around, and so sometimes I'll mention one or all of the members of K's menagerie.

There's Maia, the One-Eyed Wonder Pup:



You can read the story of how Maia came to be Maia here.


Since I shut down the last blog, Maia has been joined by an older little sister, Uzume:


Uzu is living proof of the sales power of cute.  We went to the local pet store to get something for Maia.  As on most weekends, they had a local shelter or two set up with critters for adoption.  Uzume was desperate for attention.  Once K picked her up and Uzu laid her tiny little head down on her chest, there was no question we would go home with her.


Maia and Uzume share their home with two bemused cats, Kali:


. . . and McNally:



As I said, when I'm not lawyering or hanging with K and her critters I spend some of my free time writing.  I'll write some more about that in a separate post.


I also spend some time making, as opposed to just consuming, music.  In group fashion I play clarinet in the Kanawha Valley Community Band.  As a solo artist (ha!), I've built up a fun little PC-based recording setup in my spare bedroom:



For the gear geeks out there, that's (from left to right) a Zoom R16 digital recorder, Korg M50 workstation with a Korg Kaosilator on top, a Nord Rack 2X and Alesis Micron synths sitting under an M-Audio Axiom 61 MIDI controller, and the old Gateway laptop.  For now, my tunes are posted over at ACID Planet under the name Infinity Ranch (a holdover from the old blog days).


My other big hobby is autocross, a very grassroots level form of motorsports that is, as my boss once put it, sort of like a downhill ski race, except with a car and in a parking lot.  Here's some good video evidence of what it is.  I run with the Southern WV Region of the Sports Car Club of America for the most part:


That picture, however, was taken at the Steel Cities Region's annual autocross held in conjunction with the Pittsburgh Vintage Grand Prix.

That's pretty much it for me.  The basics, anyway.  Onward!